Culture of Desire

It’s becoming common to discuss the minute, interpersonal regulations of male and female relationships almost as if they are business transactions. Sometimes it looks like we need to sign papers, provide written confirmation of our intentions, take responsibility, check and double-check that we’ve taken responsibility in writing, check whether the other person took responsibility… This can all be regulated methodically and over a period of a long time... but what about desire?

Is there desire?

If there is no desire, then will signing a contract, using lubricant, or taking responsibility really help? Would it make sense to invite someone to your apartment? Would you invite someone? If you don’t have a desire — what are you doing here?

And if there is desire?

If desire is here, then we will feel it — as long as we are attuned to this special wave. When we feel it, true desire is always mutual. This feeling is very pleasant, although not at all convenient, to share.

How can I tune into this wave?
How can I know a true desire?
Do I have a desire?
Whom do I desire?
How do I desire?

The problem is that our society, our culture has not cultivated a Culture of Desire.

It’s bad to have a desire.
It’s not ours.
It’s scary to have it.
It’s not allowed.
There are standards for it.
It should be felt only under certain circumstances.

Therefore, we probably don’t even want to think about it. It’s easier not to talk about it.

But no. It’s not easier. Desire is allowed. In the 21st century, we are allowed to desire.

To desire means to be able to feel, first of all, our selves. Many don’t possess this ability — yet. But there will definitely be more and more people!

I’m tuning into this wave in 2020.

And I desire you to feel a desire.